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Review of Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton

I chose to read this book when I saw Brene’ Brown had endorsed it.  I listen to books on Audible pretty often, so I can multi-task.  My favorites are the ones that are autobiographical narrated by the author.  I can feel the emotions as they talk and it makes it that much better.  Glennon narrated her memoir and it was so moving and raw.

I have had to face various types of numbing and addiction in my life so I can relate to all of her emotions behind the addictions.  She has an amazing way of conveying the insanity inside and how we don’t realize that it is insane when we are in it.

There are phrases that she used that touched me.

She commented on how a woman at a church was giving out grace like it was a free-for-all.  She realized a shift when the words resonated with her…”GRACE IS FREE FOR ALL!!”

I love the feeling of that, we all deserve grace.  No matter the path we have taken, God gives us his Grace without charge.  It’s FREE for ALL!

“Numbing keeps us from learning our lessons.”

One thing I learned in AA is that pain always comes before peace.  I was on a retreat earlier this year and one of the lessons was that we needed to accept pain.  We can’t avoid it.  Numbing only delays it.  It is waiting for us to acknowledge it.  The only way passed it is through it.

“Pain is a place brave people visit.”

That really hit home, because it does take courage to face the pain life deals us, real or imaginary.  I say that because we often times create our own pain inside our heads.  The pain is real, but the situation is our own perception of reality.  Once we know that, then we can change our perception and start the healing process.

“Grief is proof of love.”

Sometimes I question whether I am capable of love.  I have spent so much time numbing and afraid that I wonder what love actually feels like.  I have questioned if I ever loved.  Glennon talks about having these same questions and feelings.

I have grieved the loss of relationships, friendships, death and most recently the grieving the loss of family ties that I am not sure were ever there.  I don’t know, in some cases, if there was love from the other person, but I know I loved.

I guess maybe now it is learning how to be loved.  How to let people love me.

This is such a powerful book!  I highly recommend it!!

Comparison: You will never win!

Good Morning! This topic has been on my mind all week. I have been open to see how much I have done this and have seen how others around me use it.  I am going to start by saying what we all have heard a million times, when we compare ourselves to others we will never win.

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The title of this post is meant to mean no one wins, but also I am feeling today like it means that comparison is no longer going to win in my life.

I have spent my life in a constant state of comparison and competition.  I really acted like they were the same thing.  This kind of competition has not served me well and has held me back more than moved me forward.  When I was really willing to take a long hard look at myself, my behaviors and remove the comparison I found that comparison served multiple purposes.  When I lost the contest I was alone and worthless, when I won I was arrogant and judgmental.  Neither of those are attractive qualities.  Also, I see that I used them to keep people away from me.  I had to accept that it was a choice, not a conscious choice, but a choice made out of survival instincts.  Either way I was alone!  Even when I was around people I was ALONE!

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Every positive relationship I have in my life is from people being drawn to my light.  How do you make that shift from comparison and competition to ownership and acceptance in order for your light to shine?

This has been a long road for me, because I didn’t really have  any role models in this area, until recently.  In case my family reads this, this is based on my experience growing up, not yours.  We all grew up in the same family, but we all had different experiences and perspectives.  This is mine.

My dad demanded perfection and ruled with an iron fist and my mom moved between viking and victim as it served her needs.  My Mom was a master manipulator.  Don’t get me wrong I love her and I sided with her and followed in her foot steps most of my life.  I am as guilty of these things as she was.  My Dad needs to be in control, even though that is only a delusion.  I took that part of my father.  All of these characters are in a place of comparison.  They are also reacting to life rather than responding.

Starting at age 6 I lived in fight or flight mode having experienced sexual abuse, emotional abuse and physical abuse until my ex-husband died in September 2013.  Honestly, until I got sober on July 18, 2010 I was trying to survive from day to day.  I started my journey of creating who I am today on that day.  Old habits die hard and working the 12 steps honestly with a sponsor will change your perspective on life and yourself.  This is where I learned to take ownership of myself and my actions.  I was taught how to pause (not easy) and respond rather than react.  My toughest character defects are those characters I listed above: Perfectionist, Victim and Viking served on a platter of self-righteous indignation.

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Love this quote

How do you make the shift?

  1. You have to want to change. Period.  If you don’t want to be different you won’t be.  Any changes will be temporary.
  2. You have to own your stuff.  You have to stop focusing on what other people have, say and do.  You need to just focus on what you have, say and do.   These are the things you have control over.  Believe me you will feel SO much better when you stop trying to control things you have no control over.
  3. Accept that you don’t know what someone else’s life looks like from their shoes.  You don’t know what they have survived or what they have yet to survive.  Comparing your looks, feelings, pain, experience to what you see on the outside of someone else only hurts you.  It keeps you apart from everyone else.
  4. Create a support system:  There are groups, organizations, treatment centers, or even people who love you and accept you as you are.  I am fortunate to have amazing friends, I have my AA home group and I have my sisters from the Matthew Hussey Retreat to support me.  Find like minded people and jump in the pool, the waters nice.
  5. Take one step, one action, one micro change at a time and over time they will build into an amazing new life that you didn’t even know was possible.

These are the steps I have taken.  I have not done them perfectly.  My progress is not a straight line, but I always keep moving forward.

One thing I learned in my 6 weeks in an eating disorder treatment center, in the group sessions everyone had to tell their story.  For each person the details of their life, pain, abuses and experiences ranged from one end of the spectrum to the other.  It was horrifying hearing what some of these people endured.  But when we each broke down how it made us feel and how we viewed ourselves it was the same for everyone.  The details didn’t matter anymore.

We are all humans with feelings.  Comparison creates a divide, but compassion is the bridge over that divide.

What are your thoughts?

Spark Joy: My Emotional Experience

This experience of clearing my home of anything that does not spark joy has been surprising.  I knew that I would feel better have a more clutter free home, who wouldn’t.  The surprise was the emotional journey I went on through this process.  Konmari speaks of this in her book, but I really didn’t believe it until I went through the process.

This was an emotional cleansing and yet another angle to look at my life as it is.  What is holding me back? Am I happy? What will do I want my life to be?  I must create the life I want!!

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In October 2015 I felt like I was at a crossroads.  I have walked through my past, allowed myself to feel everything I had stuffed away and I found the other side.  It’s a strange feeling when all that stuff has been a part me for all these years, it was like losing an old friend.  There is a grieving process.  When I was through and back in the light I knew I had to move forward into unfamiliar territory.  I knew I was going to need help with this process.

I found Matthew Hussey through an interview he did on the radio one morning.  I got his book “Get The Guy” on audible and listened to him and watched his videos.  I was moved to find out more about his organization.  I found his 5.5 day retreat.  THAT’S IT!! I knew I wanted to do his retreat.  I set up an interview and I was one of the lucky 100 women approved to attend his retreat in May 2016.  They have a team that has been working with me up to the time of the retreat and they will continue after the retreat as well.  I leave for the retreat on May 29th – IN 8 DAYS!!

I decided in the months prior to the retreat to get things in my home in order before I leave so there are no excuses when I get back.   I was looking for books with ideas on how to boost morale at work when I found Marie Kondo’s book “Spark Joy”.  I thought, hell ya this is perfect!!  I ordered it on Audible and listened to it while I worked.  This has been a 2-3 month process to get through this decluttering.  I only have the kitchen left and it will be done today.  I want to tell you about everything up to now and the emotional decluttering I did during this process.

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Over my life I have managed to accumulate tons of baggage that has taken up space in my head and heart.  When I first started loading it I could pull without much effort and it grew gradually but so did my strength or tolerance.  I continued down paths where i just added to this cart and it just became normal.  In the past 5 years I have opened and gone through all the baggage on my cart and my tolerance for carrying it today is nil.  I realized during this Spark Joy process that this baggage is now pulling me backward.  I decided as part of my emotional decluttering to thank all these things for teaching me the lessons I needed to learn and serving their purpose, but now I am saying good-bye forever.

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This process really did set me free, but my friend who allowed me to use her fireplace paid a price for this.  During the process of burning the journals, letters, pictures, from years of therapy, relationships that just sucked the life out of me, the energy in those things were released and there was palpable tension in the house afterwards.  My friend sent me the last picture.  Her husband cleaned out the fireplace and they saged the house to remove any lingering negative energy.  I will say once the kitchen is done and the donations have been picked up by Salvation Army I am saging my apartment for good measure.

Also, my creativity level has increased and I have redone a number of pieces of furniture to tie my mismatched pieces together.

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My book folding projects completed:

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Those are just a few that I did during this time.  I have moved things around and I have organized making my apartment feel more like MY HOME than just a place to live.

I do feel so much happiness when I walk in and see only things I love and that give me joy around me.  I will say it is not helping get out more, I love being at home so much now.

May 25th, I will be posting the before and after transformation post.  All the stuff that is going will be gone and it will be easier to see the ultimate final outcome of this Konmari marathon.

Please tell me your thoughts on this process or ask any questions you might have about the Konmari process or the retreat or just my story in general.  Tell me your transformation story.

Love you all and I’ll talk to you soon!

 

Spark Joy – My Dream House

I spent last night trying to find pictures of what I want my house to look like and where it would be located.  Nothing totally fit, it was either too big, too small, too bland, too out there, so this morning my journaling session was describing my perfect home.writing-prompts7

It is located in the mountains, overlooking a pristine, crystal clear lake, with a huge deck that spans the width of the house  and expands in like a T in the center of the house.  The are bi fold french doors that open up to the living room and french doors to the art room on one side and the master bedroom on the other

The deck and floors are all dark wood, except the bathrooms and the art room.  The  middle of the house is all open concept with the state of the art kitchen near the entrance and a large island facing the view, the dinning table which is a handmade wood and mosaic with colorful fabric chairs, then the living space that is set up in a giant square so no matter what you want to do you are comfortable and have the view you want.  All the rooms have sliding barn style doors with a saying written on them, except the guest bathroom.

On the east side of the house is the master bedroom, bath, closet and laundry (connected to the closet), the walls in the open living space on this side has built-in storage and shelving. The door to the master is red and says “This room is filled with peace and love”, the door between the master and the bathroom closet area is a rich blue barn door, which says “There is beauty in all we see” the master bed and bath are a gentle sky blue on the walls with white trim and molding.  The blue has a gray hue so it serves as a neutral.  The artwork and accents in my bedroom are all colors and varieties, everything makes be smile.  I have a huge bed and a comfy sitting area that opens to the deck, art pieces and sculptures throughout the room.  The dresser stores fresh linens and blankets.  The bath has pops of color with the towels and flowers and art.  The closet is huge and painted a rich purple with a large multicolored ottoman and a slouchy chair in the center.   Two walls are all built-ins for clothes, shoes and anything else clothes related.  A pocket door opens to the laundry so there is no transporting of clothes around the house, only towels and sheets as needed.  Then there is a wall of shelves that contain memory boxes, journals, books, gifts, only the happy memories are kept and cherished in this special place. and in the dead center of the room is a chandelier, and covering the floor is a big fluffy white rug.  My own little power spot and a place to escape to when I need alone time.

On the west side of the house from entrance to deck is the guest room, bathroom, which connects to the guest room and the art room, and at the back the art room, which opens up to the deck and also has a comfy sitting area with a table for having coffee and looking out at the view.  The art room door is purple and says “Creativity makes my soul sing!!” and the guest room door is peacock blue and says “All who stay here are loved and bless this house.”  The art room has built-in for tons of storage, a giant wood work table and an easel, comfy stools.  The storage contains every conceivable supply you would need to make your hearts desire.  The guest room is a pale yellow with art work and plenty of storage in the closet and a basket of candles, towels, toiletries and a little note to greet them.

The deck has lantern lighting and metal fire pit, lots of seating and a table and chairs where the center has candles inset and surrounded by sea glass.  Outside the master on the deck is a water fountain and more seating. and my pets have free reign over the home, so dog or cat, expect some kind of fur ball to give you love while you are here.

Come in, sit down, what can I get you?

Time for a New Approach…Spark Joy

Okay,  it is confession time…I know I am not alone here…I always have clutter around me.  I reach a point where I clean and organize and declutter, but it is just a matter of time before the art projects take over my living room, the books I am reading pile up, the clothes are on the floor or in the drier and the dishes are in the sink.  The amount of “stuff” I have is not over whelming, because I used to move every year, which took  care of some of the excess.  I did some major decluttering, donating and trashing in December.  I have been working on my focus and direction in life, as well as, keeping the positive energy flowing in my life.

My progress this year has been slow forward movement, which is good, but I have been feeling a bit stuck.  So just like when a truck gets stuck in the mud or sand you need to either back up and add something to get traction.  For my work life I have been reading books on improving morale and positive leadership, which lead me to finding the book “Spark Joy, an illustrated master class on the art of organizing and tidying up” by Marie Kondo.  This sparked my interest because it hit all happy buttons:  joy, organizing, art, beauty and learning a new way of looking at something.

Marie teaches in a very specific way of decluttering based on keeping ONLY the things that spark joy when you see or touch them.  She also teaches how to store the things you keep in a way where it shows them respect, and energizes the space.  She discusses that a result of her teachings, based on feedback and experience, you will never not be a tidy person again.  Also, she has seen peoples lives change: after the class they enjoyed cooking, or their relationships improved, they made major decisions that they where not previously ready to make.

I look at it as when your home is cluttered your mind is cluttered.  The idea of being surrounded only by things that spark joy, everything having a place and showing your things respect you end up respecting yourself and any problems are easier to address.

I am embarking on this journey of “Spark Joy” today.  The first things she wants is for me to describe my dream living space and take pictures of my home as it is now so I can see the difference.  I know that I will be getting rid of many more things, but I thought this time I would try something that Adam Crockett in Passion In Action: Pure Steam RPG mentioned during his interview.  I am going to take the things I am getting rid of and going to post them on Craigslist for trade.  I want to see if I can trade them for things that do bring me joy.

I will follow up with the Before and after photo’s, pictures of the stuff I am trading and of what I get in return.  I think it will be interesting to see if I will be forever tidy and have some new joyful items in my home.

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When the Noise Stops.

Have you ever noticed that there are times when, through all the noise that the world throws at us, a message stands out?  It resonates with your soul and gains your attention. Once you notice it, it repeats until you do something about it.  For me, these are things the universe is presenting to me as an opportunity to learn and grow. This knowledge has been gained by looking at my life and in hindsight, I can see this path very clearly.  There is an intentional sequence to my lessons.  Each one building and preparing me for the next.  Each lesson is harder and goes deeper than the one before.

I spent my life up until 2010 at top speed, living in a fight or flight mode. If I ran fast enough all the feelings would never catch up to me, but that doesn’t work.  As we all have heard the phrase, “No matter where you go there you are.”  Up until this point I had lived in the delusion of being in control.  In 2009 I lost my mother, that was the straw that broke the camels back.

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I got the message loud and clear to STOP!!  Stop running! Stop hiding! Stop NUMBING!  JUST STOP!  It took a full year to be able to STOP.  It was through divine intervention that this happened and my life stopped and turned on a dime.  I was surrounded by people who understood immediately and loved me until I could love myself.  I was so far out of my comfort zone that all I could do was let go and ride it out.  Through this process I had to completely examine my life, the good and the bad.  “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates was right.  This process changed my perspective on life and various events in my life.  Perspective is key to whether or not I have a good day or bad day.  I get to decide.  Connecting the Dots is a perfect example of this.

In 2011 was the year of FORGIVENESS.  Forgiving the little things, mistakes, things said in the heat of the moment are easier than others. Asking for forgiveness is even harder.  There is a level of humility I had to gain, but once I started taking the action the relief was palpable.  I had no idea the weight I was carrying with the fear and shame. Then when it comes to forgiving someone who IS WRONG and HAS HARMED YOU or someone you love, the resentment and righteousness are tough to put down.  The event that harmed me was life changing and for the average person is unforgivable.  This was quite the struggle because my resentment had manifested in PURE RAGE.  Inside I knew that if I couldn’t let this go my life would never get any better than it was right then.  I WANT MORE!  I WANT TO FEEL PEACE!  I WANT TO BE HAPPY!  I had to make my peace with him, I had to make amends for my actions towards him after the event and in my heart I had to forgive him.  It took more divine intervention to get to the place where I was sitting across the table from this person and asked him to forgive me for my actions.  He did.  In sitting across from him my perception of him changed.  Seeing him where he has lived his life on the streets, in half way houses, drunk, losing his sight and day-to-day not knowing what might come hcropped-1510909_10152359989386030_7638752685126468128_n.jpgis way, my anger turned to sadness.  Life has a way of balancing the scales.  A friend told me, “forgiveness does not mean that they were right, or what they did was ok, it just frees you of the burden of carrying the resentment.  It helps you to move on and live free of the toxic feelings that resentment brings.”   When I got up from that table and wished him well I felt PEACE!  I WAS FREE!  I never dreamed that any of this was ever possible.  It is one of the greatest days of my life!

I had over a year of PEACE from 2012 and into 2013.  I am not saying that I didn’t have struggles, but I was able to face them with a level of grace I never had before. I was spending time with God and enjoying each day.  5 Ways I Get Closer to God is a blog post wrote during this time.  My mornings consist of

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Now 2013 was one of those years when I realized that everything before was preparing me to deal with what was happening.  The message FEEL.  FEEL EVERYTHING! Ugh, seriously?!  It has been so nice for so long.  At this point I had been divorced for 12 years, and my ex-husband had managed to continue the emotional abuse via stalking me electronically.  I never really felt safe or completely at rest, part of me was just waiting for the next thing.  In September of 2013 I was contacted by my step-son, who told me that my ex has lung cancer and only has a few weeks to live.  He died that night.  I found out most of the information from Facebook.  I have never felt so many feelings all at once..relief, guilt, anger, fear, shame, peace, guilt….all cycled over and over.  FEELINGS!  TOO MANY FEELINGS!!  This triggered my PTSD.  After talking to a very dear friend who was going through the same thing at that time, I went into EMDR treatment, which helped me process everything and I was back to a peaceful place within the month.

2014 was all about me. Once I had faced all these external demons I only had one demon left and it is one of the toughest…ME!!!  SELF-FORGIVENESS and SELF-LOVE. This is a current and ongoing battle to change my brain.  I need to break old habits and treat myself like I treat my friends, and even people I don’t know.  I have undergone intense therapy where it was reflected back to me how mean I am to myself.  My greatest lessons have come from being around groups of people in the same situation.  I have always seen it, but now I actually don’t completely believe the things I tell myself.  I am making progress, slowly but surely I will get there.  “The Power of Vulnerability” by Brene’ Brown has really helped me find my way out of a place of shame and into a place of love.  I am still a work in progress.

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I am enough!!

Today the word that jumps out at me is JOY.  Brene’ talks about how joy is one of the most difficult things to feel.  What she describes is so me.  When I feel JOY I feel so vulnerable and I am so afraid that something bad is going to happen that I just shut down that feeling.  PEACE is one thing  JOY…real JOY AND BLISS?!  I am not sure I even know how to feel it.  I see it in others…kids playing, couples in love, friends…

…You know I just realized when I am in a group of people where I feel safe I do experience JOY.  It almost always happens when I hang out with my friend Dianne and our group of friends.  Also, My friends Amy and Shy and our group of friends.  I feel 100% safe around them.  There’s HOPE!!!

How do I create a life where I can allow myself to be Joyful everyday?!  In 3 months I will find out exactly how to do that when I go on Matthew Hussey Retreat in Florida.  This week will wrap all this hard work up into a road map to living my life the way I want to live it!  I am so excited I can’t even wait.

Tell me do you see your lessons or path through the noise?  Have you found your path to PEACE, LOVE and JOY?!

 

 

PASSION IN ACTION: PURE STEAM RPG

It always amazes me how many people I know who make full use of their time doing projects or businesses for which they have a passion.   Some do projects or are creative just for the pleasure it brings them.  We all need to do things that give us joy, whatever that may be.  Others have carved out time and money to create their own businesses.  I hear all the time from people I have talked to or listen to people complain that they don’t have time or money to so something that makes them happy.  I am stuck in this job or I have a family to take care of…I have found people who knew that you can make time for everything that is important.  You would be amazed at how much time is wasted in an average day.

Adam Crockett works in the purchasing department where I work.  He has a demanding job, a wife and 3 daughters.  Even with all these demands on his time he managed to create a business creating supplements for role playing games without negatively impacting his work or family relationships.  I interviewed Adam recently and this is what I learned from him.

Brenda:   Tell me about your company and its products?  Do you have a website?

Adam:   Yes, we have a website it’s www.PuresteamRPG.com.  We are licensed to create supplements for Steampunk, Americana role playing games (RPG).   Here is the description from their Facebook page: “Pure Steam is a Pathfinder RPG compatible Steampunk setting. In the age of steam, coal is king. Play a moonshinin’ halfling alchemist in the Blue Ridge, a dwarven mechanical prodigy able to jury rig vehicles on the fly, and many more!”

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Brenda: I am really only familiar with online role playing games and honestly It’s not my thing, but I hang out with lots of people who love RPG’s.  What inspired you to do this?

Adam:  I have always been into RPG’s and have played for 20 years. I have always had an entrepreneurial spirit.  My dad owned his own business.  So, as I was working through my MBA, we had a lot of projects and papers to write and I always did them on RPG’s.  Through that process I found a niche that I wanted to fill.  I meet a guy through mutual friends who went to school for game design.  He had the desire to go into business, but he lacked the business side. We figured we would team up.

Brenda: I know you have a very demanding job, and your family is very important to you.  How did you carve out time to start this business and keep it going?

Adam: My philosophy is that everyone has free time.  I found out how much free time I had when we adopted our daughter.  It is a very expensive process and I took on a second job to pay for it. I was working 40 hours a week at my regular job and 30 hours a week at my second job and I still ate, slept, watched TV and still saw my family.   How I don’t let this interfere with my family is I wait until the girls go to bed at night, and spend time 2 or 3 days a week working on this.  I have been married long enough where my wife gets sick of me sometimes, so it all works out.  I do take a vacation day here or there.

Brenda:  How do you distribute your products?

Adam:  It’s an open game license through Pathfinder.  You have to apply for a license, but that is the biggest selling point for this game is that there is so much modularity to it, because it is an open license.  Other games are locked down so you can only buy them through the producer; this one allows us to sell our products separately.  They even sell our products on their own website.  It’s a very symbiotic relationship.

Brenda:  Do you craft pieces yourself?  How did you find someone to publish your books?

Adam:  The main deliverable for us is a rule book.  I have worked in purchasing for my entire adult career, so I just shopped publishers in the area.  I found a local one in Dallas Balfour, who does small runs.  They do year books for high schools.  They are used to working with armatures and are very forgiving.  They really helped us through this process. We also have the adobe electronic version which we sell also.   We sub out the artwork to artists we have met at conventions.  We have a couple of miniatures we created.  One of the top miniature producers in the world is in Denton, Texas, Reaper Miniatures.  I asked them who designs their sculptures and got a few names and decided on a couple  people who 3-D design the sculptures, 3-D print and then cast the miniatures.  We also produce props; my cousin is a prop designer.  It is common for people who attend the conventions to dress up.  He designs props for use to cross play or to sell to people.  We found the path of least resistance.

The smallest run we could do was 1,000 copies, which we printed 2 years ago.  I would just take a few books with me on trips and rather than doing dinner I would go out and hit gaming stores all over the country.  I cross pollinated the northern United States.  I was taking a trip to London and I contacted a store in London before I went and they said they would be happy to buy some books when they came out.  We have been shipping to them.  The first 500 took a year to year and half to sell; the second 500 only took about 6 months through distribution.  We just sold out.  We are talking about reprinting the first book.  We are just finishing up our second book, which is a Wild, Wild West expansion to the first one.  This will be available this summer.

Brenda:  So you have used Kick starter to get funding for these projects as you come up with them?

Adam: Yes, so far we have been, but we are hoping to develop enough of a steady cash flow so we can get away from it.  Kick starter is a really amazing tool for a little Indy company like us.  It helps you gage market interest, get followers, generate buzz and funds it.  Those who back it usually get something extra for their support.

Here’s a cool story, before we did the kick starter we wanted to have some of the artwork done, so to raise the funds for someone to create the artwork to show people.  I had this funky idea I had this box of just random stuff that I went on Craigslist and traded up for other stuff until I have enough stuff to sell to fund the art work.  I raise $600 for the artwork.  I got the idea from this story about this guy called “The Red Paperclip” from a few years ago.  This guy started with a red paperclip and in something ridiculous like 15 trades he had a house.  So I thought I would see what I could do with this box of stuff.

Brenda: What’s your favorite thing about this business?

Adam: The coolest thing about it is that we go to conventions and complete strangers come up to us and know the games, have played them and love them.  It is so amazing.  We have customers from all over the world who buy our products.  To have retold my family stories from Appalachia in a steam punk setting and people love it!

I want to thank Adam for sharing his story and experience with us. I am so inspired by what we are all capable of if we have the desire and are willing to work for what we love.  Let’s all “Dare Greatly.”

This is one of my favorite quotes:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

 ― Theodore Roosevelt


Courage

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Theodore Roosevelt