This experience of clearing my home of anything that does not spark joy has been surprising. I knew that I would feel better have a more clutter free home, who wouldn’t. The surprise was the emotional journey I went on through this process. Konmari speaks of this in her book, but I really didn’t believe it until I went through the process.
This was an emotional cleansing and yet another angle to look at my life as it is. What is holding me back? Am I happy? What will do I want my life to be? I must create the life I want!!
In October 2015 I felt like I was at a crossroads. I have walked through my past, allowed myself to feel everything I had stuffed away and I found the other side. It’s a strange feeling when all that stuff has been a part me for all these years, it was like losing an old friend. There is a grieving process. When I was through and back in the light I knew I had to move forward into unfamiliar territory. I knew I was going to need help with this process.
I found Matthew Hussey through an interview he did on the radio one morning. I got his book “Get The Guy” on audible and listened to him and watched his videos. I was moved to find out more about his organization. I found his 5.5 day retreat. THAT’S IT!! I knew I wanted to do his retreat. I set up an interview and I was one of the lucky 100 women approved to attend his retreat in May 2016. They have a team that has been working with me up to the time of the retreat and they will continue after the retreat as well. I leave for the retreat on May 29th – IN 8 DAYS!!
I decided in the months prior to the retreat to get things in my home in order before I leave so there are no excuses when I get back. I was looking for books with ideas on how to boost morale at work when I found Marie Kondo’s book “Spark Joy”. I thought, hell ya this is perfect!! I ordered it on Audible and listened to it while I worked. This has been a 2-3 month process to get through this decluttering. I only have the kitchen left and it will be done today. I want to tell you about everything up to now and the emotional decluttering I did during this process.
Over my life I have managed to accumulate tons of baggage that has taken up space in my head and heart. When I first started loading it I could pull without much effort and it grew gradually but so did my strength or tolerance. I continued down paths where i just added to this cart and it just became normal. In the past 5 years I have opened and gone through all the baggage on my cart and my tolerance for carrying it today is nil. I realized during this Spark Joy process that this baggage is now pulling me backward. I decided as part of my emotional decluttering to thank all these things for teaching me the lessons I needed to learn and serving their purpose, but now I am saying good-bye forever.
This process really did set me free, but my friend who allowed me to use her fireplace paid a price for this. During the process of burning the journals, letters, pictures, from years of therapy, relationships that just sucked the life out of me, the energy in those things were released and there was palpable tension in the house afterwards. My friend sent me the last picture. Her husband cleaned out the fireplace and they saged the house to remove any lingering negative energy. I will say once the kitchen is done and the donations have been picked up by Salvation Army I am saging my apartment for good measure.
Also, my creativity level has increased and I have redone a number of pieces of furniture to tie my mismatched pieces together.
My book folding projects completed:
Those are just a few that I did during this time. I have moved things around and I have organized making my apartment feel more like MY HOME than just a place to live.
I do feel so much happiness when I walk in and see only things I love and that give me joy around me. I will say it is not helping get out more, I love being at home so much now.
May 25th, I will be posting the before and after transformation post. All the stuff that is going will be gone and it will be easier to see the ultimate final outcome of this Konmari marathon.
Please tell me your thoughts on this process or ask any questions you might have about the Konmari process or the retreat or just my story in general. Tell me your transformation story.
Love you all and I’ll talk to you soon!