Category Archives: Spark Joy by Marie Kondo


I finally made it and this journey was life changing as promised.  Many of my friends laugh when I talked about the process.  Others said that they want to do this but with a family and house it is a huge undertaking.  I will say it is a lot of work.  You really have to be committed to the process and willing to invest in YOURSELF.

I started this because when I listened to Marie Kondo’s book on Audible she spoke about the emotional and behavior changes that happen as a result of going through this process.  Honestly, I wasn’t sure that anything would change behaviorally for me.  My habits are deeply ingrained in my life.

I always hated folding clothes and rarely put them away partly due to being lazy, but I found partly due to the fact that the way I stored them I could not see what I had.  Not only do I like the folding process that Marie Kondo teaches, but I love the fact that I can see what I have at a glance and my drawers and closet are beautiful too!  Also, during this process I found myself caring more about how a care for my clothes and how I look in them.  I started to love myself more!

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Books and papers really do hold the energy of the words in them.  I only have uplifting books in my home now.  I had all my paperwork except for current bills.  I did not realize the weighed down I was having all of it taking up space.  I also burned all of my old journals and items that carried negative energy related to past events and relationships.  I can’t describe what a relief that was to have that energy out of my life.  It was all holding me back.

Here are some before and after pictures:

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Here is a picture of my donations:


The feeling I get when I walk into my home now is calm & happiness.

I actually want to keep it clean and have been putting things away on a daily basis.  Honestly, it felt a little weird because I have never lived in a space that truly made me happy.  There was always that…I need to, or I have to…I don’t have that voice nagging me today.  My self-esteem got a boost too!

Honestly, if I can do this I can do anything!!

This is one of the best things I have ever done for myself!!

Spark Joy: My Emotional Experience

This experience of clearing my home of anything that does not spark joy has been surprising.  I knew that I would feel better have a more clutter free home, who wouldn’t.  The surprise was the emotional journey I went on through this process.  Konmari speaks of this in her book, but I really didn’t believe it until I went through the process.

This was an emotional cleansing and yet another angle to look at my life as it is.  What is holding me back? Am I happy? What will do I want my life to be?  I must create the life I want!!


In October 2015 I felt like I was at a crossroads.  I have walked through my past, allowed myself to feel everything I had stuffed away and I found the other side.  It’s a strange feeling when all that stuff has been a part me for all these years, it was like losing an old friend.  There is a grieving process.  When I was through and back in the light I knew I had to move forward into unfamiliar territory.  I knew I was going to need help with this process.

I found Matthew Hussey through an interview he did on the radio one morning.  I got his book “Get The Guy” on audible and listened to him and watched his videos.  I was moved to find out more about his organization.  I found his 5.5 day retreat.  THAT’S IT!! I knew I wanted to do his retreat.  I set up an interview and I was one of the lucky 100 women approved to attend his retreat in May 2016.  They have a team that has been working with me up to the time of the retreat and they will continue after the retreat as well.  I leave for the retreat on May 29th – IN 8 DAYS!!

I decided in the months prior to the retreat to get things in my home in order before I leave so there are no excuses when I get back.   I was looking for books with ideas on how to boost morale at work when I found Marie Kondo’s book “Spark Joy”.  I thought, hell ya this is perfect!!  I ordered it on Audible and listened to it while I worked.  This has been a 2-3 month process to get through this decluttering.  I only have the kitchen left and it will be done today.  I want to tell you about everything up to now and the emotional decluttering I did during this process.


Over my life I have managed to accumulate tons of baggage that has taken up space in my head and heart.  When I first started loading it I could pull without much effort and it grew gradually but so did my strength or tolerance.  I continued down paths where i just added to this cart and it just became normal.  In the past 5 years I have opened and gone through all the baggage on my cart and my tolerance for carrying it today is nil.  I realized during this Spark Joy process that this baggage is now pulling me backward.  I decided as part of my emotional decluttering to thank all these things for teaching me the lessons I needed to learn and serving their purpose, but now I am saying good-bye forever.

goodbye burning cleansing

This process really did set me free, but my friend who allowed me to use her fireplace paid a price for this.  During the process of burning the journals, letters, pictures, from years of therapy, relationships that just sucked the life out of me, the energy in those things were released and there was palpable tension in the house afterwards.  My friend sent me the last picture.  Her husband cleaned out the fireplace and they saged the house to remove any lingering negative energy.  I will say once the kitchen is done and the donations have been picked up by Salvation Army I am saging my apartment for good measure.

Also, my creativity level has increased and I have redone a number of pieces of furniture to tie my mismatched pieces together.

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My book folding projects completed:

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Those are just a few that I did during this time.  I have moved things around and I have organized making my apartment feel more like MY HOME than just a place to live.

I do feel so much happiness when I walk in and see only things I love and that give me joy around me.  I will say it is not helping get out more, I love being at home so much now.

May 25th, I will be posting the before and after transformation post.  All the stuff that is going will be gone and it will be easier to see the ultimate final outcome of this Konmari marathon.

Please tell me your thoughts on this process or ask any questions you might have about the Konmari process or the retreat or just my story in general.  Tell me your transformation story.

Love you all and I’ll talk to you soon!


Spark Joy Progress & Procraftination


I feel pretty good considering I got distracted and went down some bunny trails doing craft projects.  I finished the clothing portion of the process and organized my crafts in the process.

You know I really didn’t think I was going to enjoy folding my clothes and I was very sure I was not going to be able to fold them in bundles that would stand on their own.  My aversion to folding clothes goes back  forever, I would have clean clothes in one pile and dirty in another.  I have to say that I really enjoyed the folding process once I saw that it worked the way Konmari said it would.  I was almost giddy with excitement.

This is the folding process and results:

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Here are my before pictures, I forgot to include my dresser drawers in the before shots.

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Now after!!

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Now for my creative activities for the weekend…I re-energize when I do crafts.  I love my table now!!

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Maggie my partner in crime..she was under foot all day, but I love when she gets snugly.

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Next is books and then papers.   I feel more procrastination coming on.

Is this how you fold your clothes?  What do you think of the results?  Would you do this?

#SparkJoy  #MarieKondo #KonMariMethod

My Dream House – Oh how it stirred my soul!!


I love the spring, except for the hail storms we are getting here in Texas.  I posted about my Spark Joy-My Dream House.  Ever since I wrote this down I really want it!!  My desire to live in a space that gives me that feel of unity, color, creativity and comfort that feels like you just got a BIG HUG, has movitated me to finish my Spark Joy Marathon Tidying this weekend.  I purchased chaulk based paint and shelf liner paper to unify and spice up my current living space.

I have all my before pictures so as I complete each step, I will take after pictures and post them for all to see the transformation.

I want to hear from YOU!  What is you dream living space/life style?  Do you already have it? If not, sky’s the limit what would your space and place look like? where would you live?

You’d be amazed how much it stirs your soul to write about something that gives you joy!!

Tell me your story..

Brenda the Brave