I am writing today with a heavy weight on my heart. It seems that with texting, email, social media…that people have lost the sense of how powerful words are. People feel free to say whatever they want without any consequences. Many people don’t see or feel the impact of what they say, because of that harsh words are spoken easily.
I am reminded of a statement I read somewhere, “Hurt people, hurt people.” Meaning that when we are hurt or afraid we do one of two things hide or attack. It’s human nature…fight or flight. Bullies learn to hurt others, because they live in an environment where they are being hurt or they are taught to hurt others. Verbal abuse can be just as, if not more, harmful than physical abuse. your body heals, but words get in your head and are stored there.
For me, a negative comment can stick with me longer than a positive one. Those words feel heavier. They take a greater toll on me. I am so practiced at self-criticism that anything negative goes straight in to the armory. However, I have also felt the power of a kind word or a compliment. It can turn my entire day around. The fulfillment I get from being kind to others fills my soul like nothing else can.
Why do I bring this up? I had the misfortune of watching the impact of a vicious verbal attack on a number of women. No one deserves such an attack and the scars the words leave. One woman, who is an amazing, sassy and wonderful person has been deeply hurt by this attack. The people involved show no remorse for their actions. They are actually proud of what they have done. My opinion of two of these people is permanently damaged. The disappointment is so deep nothing can turn it around. As for the other, the viking inside me wants to destroy him!! I have to remember that only a person who is seriously damaged could inflict such pain without remorse.
I know there is nothing I can say or do to fix what has been done. I will say that karma is a bitch! I have watched her work and there is some slow painful payback in this man’s future. I don’t need to see it. I know that karma’s payback is always far worse than anything I could come up with on my own.
As powerful as words are silence is even more powerful.
Brenda the Brave